cannot connect to a wireless dsl router

I am running vista on a homebuilt computer. I have verizon dsl with their
westell router. When I try to connect to the router wireless it is only
local.

My laptop can connect to it no problem, so I know the problem is not with
the router.

I can also connect to my neighbors verizon router no problem, so i am at a
total loss as to why i cannot connect to mine.

I am using a netgear wireless adapter card.

When i use vista (as opposed to netgear software), to try and connect it say
connection was cancelled due to "timeout or user action"

any help would be appreciated.